By Mike Thomas, NBHWC May 2, 2024
In life, we often encounter situations that seem unfair or beyond our control. While it’s true that not all circumstances are our fault, taking ownership of them is crucial for making real progress. This concept, central to the book QBQ! The Question Behind the Question, is about shifting our mindset from blame to accountability. Similarly, The Energy Bus by Jon Gordon emphasizes the power of taking control of your life, regardless of external circumstances.
The Power of Ownership
Ownership isn’t just about who’s to blame—it’s about taking responsibility. It means understanding that even though we can’t control everything that happens to us, we can control how we react to those things. When we take charge of our problems, we give ourselves the power to find solutions and move forward. A lot of times, we feel stuck and find it hard to move ahead. The first step to getting unstuck is asking ourselves, “What do I own?” Often, people feel like they don’t have any choices, so they just give up. But you don’t have to just sit there and let life happen to you like so many others who are unhappy. You can act and shape your own life.
Real-Life Transformations
Case 1: The Entrepreneur’s Pivot
John was an aspiring entrepreneur whose startup was struggling to gain traction. Initially, he blamed market conditions and lack of investor interest. However, after embracing the principle of ownership, John reevaluated his business model, sought feedback, and pivoted his strategy. This shift not only revived his business but also led to substantial growth.
Case 2: Personal Health Reclaimed
Sarah, a busy professional, blamed her demanding job for her poor health and stress levels. When she decided to “own” her health, she made time for regular exercise, adjusted her diet, and set boundaries at work to manage stress. Her efforts paid off, resulting in improved health and increased job satisfaction.
These stories exemplify how taking responsibility can lead to significant improvements in both personal and professional life.
Take Control of Your Life
The book “The Energy Bus” gives us a powerful idea: You’re the boss of your own life, so take the reins and steer it toward your goals, like what you want for your health. Many people feel stuck because of their situations and end up just letting fate take over. But remember, you always have choices. You don’t have to be pushed around by life. Instead, take charge and make choices that match your values and what you want to achieve. Making progress starts with just one thought, one belief, and one action at a time.
It’s normal and natural to blame others and feel sorry for ourselves when bad things happen. If you do feel this way, it’s okay to have a “pity party,” but set a time limit for it. Will it last a few minutes? A day? A week? Or even several years? (not recommended). Be clear about how long you’ll let yourself feel this way. When the time is up, it’s time to move on. If you don’t, you’ll just stay stuck.
Call to Action- “So What. Now What?”
Take a moment to reflect on your life. Where are there signs of blame and a lack of ownership? Perhaps it’s a strained relationship, a stagnant career, or unresolved personal issues. Consider adopting the mantra, “So What. Now What?” This mindset will help you shift from blame to proactive problem-solving.
Remember, it’s your life, and you decide what it looks like and how it feels. Take the first step today by owning your circumstances and directing your life towards meaningful progress.
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